How can I make my husband understand that my anxiety attacks are real and not a made-up cry for attention?
ByI have an anxiety disorder and have Anxiety Attacks from time to time where I can’t function – I can’t breathe, I curl up in a ball and cry and shake until it is done. He yells at me and tells me to stop and that, of course, makes it worse. He blew up at me today and now I can’t even go talk to him with starting to shake and feel anxious again. How can I get him to understand so he won’t yell at me any more?
Are you already talking to a doctor regarding your condition? Take your husband along so that he is part of the healing process that the doctor provides.
You are in urgent need of support and love from your husband in this hour of need and it is only essential that the 2 of you move forward with better understanding.
Your husband has a lot of tensions of his own, and that is why he is shouting at you. Ask him to confide in you his problems. Its most likely going 2 be stress at work. Take care.
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March 18th, 2010 at 7:53 pm
Show him some literature on the symptoms of panic disorder. I suggest that you treat your problem either through medication or CBT (cognitive-behavioral therapy.) Left untreated, this disorder can seriously ruin your quality of life.
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March 18th, 2010 at 8:35 pm
Do you see a Doctor about your Attacks ? If You DO, have Him discuss your Condition with your Husband. You have ENOUGH Problems- without your Husband making them WORSE !!!
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March 18th, 2010 at 8:54 pm
I hate to burst a bubble(not really) but if he is your husband then he should really take your words at face value and not look down at them.. Being angry is probably his method of dealing with an event he otherwise has no control or appropriate response over. If he cannot get past that, then perhaps your relationship needs work(but dont get anxious over that)
According to a few medical journals and some other articles you can find online meditation is supposed to be alleviate stress and anxiety. Look for some meditation techniques and use them. I cant guarantee it will work but it certainly wouldnt hurt to try. Also, try and convince him to help you breath during your anxiety attacks.. holding in your breath is not fun for extended periods of time.
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March 18th, 2010 at 9:05 pm
Hard one. My husband knows I have depression and anxiety but then sometimes says "you’re okay" (like nothing wrong). Then when I do get to feeling bad….usually sleep alot – he doesn’t understand why I have this. But he accepts it which I am forever grateful. It is so hard for people who don’t have mental problems to be compassionate with those who do b/c they have not experienced it. Your husband may not change. You can only change your reaction to him….take care of yourself
I go to a therapist and vent….that really helps. I don’t want to overwhelm my husband.
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March 18th, 2010 at 9:55 pm
Obviously, he doesn’t know HOW to react, and he is in denial. Could it be that he is afraid????
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March 18th, 2010 at 10:24 pm
Are you already talking to a doctor regarding your condition? Take your husband along so that he is part of the healing process that the doctor provides.
You are in urgent need of support and love from your husband in this hour of need and it is only essential that the 2 of you move forward with better understanding.
Your husband has a lot of tensions of his own, and that is why he is shouting at you. Ask him to confide in you his problems. Its most likely going 2 be stress at work. Take care.
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